Anger management Obstacles

Overcoming anger, we must first acknowledge what we think obstacles are.

The biggest obstacle that a person faces is self-blame.  We love the power, the surge of energy that anger gives us; this feeling makes us think we can take on the world.  When were angry we place the blame on anything that is currently surrounding  us, never really looking at or trying to see the real issue.  We can also use different types of abusive behavior to cope with anger, this way we can once again blame something else for our issues.  A coping mechanism called Denial, an emotional defense that if someone attacks us tells our brain to deny it is not our fault and that we have done nothing wrong.  

These are only a few ideas of what could hold one back from seeking help when dealing with anger, our inner demons thinking they know what is best. To know what might be your obstacles, take a good hard look at what has been gone on to get you to this point of wanting help.

Conquering anger is not easy to do, the work is hard, you now must face your obstacles and remove them one by one this by no means is an easy task.  Trying to eliminate them all at once will only cause frustration, and know that with frustration, you could revert to your old ways.  Once you start working on these roadblocks, you have started the long road to becoming a healthier you.

Angry/ Mad Or upset

In the first lesson of determining whether Anger is an issue, one needs to know the difference between being Angry or Upset. Understanding which category, you fall under; are you Angry/ mad or just Upset.  You must know that these feelings are a learned emotion.  As an individual grows up, they are witness to these emotions many times thru out the day, how we witness these emotions plays out to how we use them, as we get older.

Anger is a second emotion that plays off a primary situation it is not a primary function; it is only a description of a specific emotion.  This particular feeling could result in negative behavior / aggression.  We hear the word Mad too, which back in the day was considered a mental issue, but in today’s world it has the same meaning as Angry.

Upset- though still a second emotion has a more subtle tone to it, because when one states that they feel this, its context is more of being disappointed or unhappy with that situation.

Once one determines and understands that these two words mean two different emotions then one can really start understanding how they feel, to really what degree they have Anger issues, do I have that aggressive feeling majority of the time or is that I am just unhappy?  This will inform you that anger can and is a Friend and A Foe.