Anger Solves Nothing

Have you ever asked yourself “what did getting angry really accomplish?”  Was your answer I was able to hurt someone; I broke things that I now have to replace.  I love this one “I ended up looking like the ass that was angry over something so trivial”.  Think back, has anyone even mentioned that last statement to you?

Will my tools work for you?  Only you can answer that.  

Anger does not have any type of positive outcome.  You have the right to be angry but remember knowing how to point your anger in the right direction is the most important idea you must learn.  

I touched on anger being a learned emotion, try imprinting this on children for they are watching you.  The old adage is smiles are contagious, well so is anger.  Do you want the young people to immolate the anger you used to have or would you have them follow in the footstep on how you react currently?  

 Now knowing anger achieves zero “are you happier and are the people around you happier”? Know you are not alone in this battle, everyone to some level is angry; the difference is you are working on controlling it.  A scary question I ask myself all the time is “what would the world be like if everyone was working on anger management to some degree or another”?  I do not even think Hollywood could solve this problem.  

Only you are in control of you, Period no one else is.

Let It go

Letting anger go is one of the hardest things any person can do.  We as human beings grow up watching our peers stewing over situations for long periods.  We learned as a child and as a young adult that we have to some type of completion.  It does not matter what type only that it has to have an end.  Note this is a normal feeling of need, if you ask yourself or anyone the deepest question of all “Why?”,  you shall learn that most answers are “ Because , or I need to know”. 

What are you achieving by not letting it go?  Headaches, high blood pressure, stomach problems or even worst, law involvement, courts, money owed.  Remember not letting things go you have started the process of confrontation, resentment, possible physical altercations, the mental stressors are already there.  So again, ask yourself what you are gaining. 

Finally learning the will to let it go, what will you achieve?  Peace, showing others that you are the bigger person, self-confidence of knowing you can walk away without confrontation. The complete knowledge that you are the one in control, no matter how large or how hard the other person or persons try to create severe adversity thru you.  How you ask?  You can try making the statement “I am sorry you feel that way all while showing no emotion.  Look at the whole picture once again by stepping back and breathing.  Letting it go can truly bring a peace inside.