Direct Confrontation

Situations arise all the time by many ways, instances like hearing about it via a friend or maybe seeing it on social media; you might have even witnessed it.  These situations could be the tipping point of an “I need to confront or handle the situation”.  But then again do you really need to?

How you decide to confront a situation is a choice that every individual has to decide.  Every step really depends on where you are at in controlling your anger.  Any type of confrontation should take place at least 12 to 24 hours after the situation. This once again allows you to calm down and think things thru.  I have stated in previous blogs you have to use every tool, those tools will help you to make the right choices.

In confrontation, I recommend using a third party to assist you.  A person who is neutral; this gives you an easy out if needed.  Then using the phone is a good option too.  Having an idea of what you are going to say is highly recommended.  I would never use media for there can be so many ways to perceive so choose your words wisely if you choose to go this route. One thing lesson I pass to everyone is this “All words can never be taken back they are and will be remembered for ever.  Think about this “Do you remember what the bully called you?”  Making the wrong choice can lead to disastrous results.

Navigate Your Options

I am at a sporting event when suddenly I am pushed from behind, knocking my drink and Nachos on to my wife.  This person then starts screaming at me that I was in their way and I had better move or they were going to put out my lights.  I then step into them, mentally daring them to try.  I have never backed down in my life and I was not about to start now.

This scenario happens all the time at events by people who are easily excited or intoxicated or even experienced some extracurricular activities. Now is when you separate yourself from others in the ability to avoid a conflict.  Throughout this blog, I have suggested many how to ways avoid becoming angry.  This time however, is about slowing down and taking the time to see what options are available to you.  Let us look at the above situation, who was with you?  Was security around? Could you up and move somewhere else?  Did the person have friends or family with them?  Could you just walk away?  Biggest question is “is there a safety issue?” 

 Thru time, all tools become an asset not only as individual tools but when put together they can be an awesome combination.  Looking at the above situation and asking some of the questions we did, we incorporated many steps.  The biggest issue now is taking advantage of what we see.  By possibly walking away, being the bigger person of the situation: We win.